The Disappearance of Stacy Peterson

stacey-peterson.jpg This is Stacy Peterson.  Attractive woman.  But what’s the matter with this picture? A 19 year old woman marries a man in his late 40s who’s been married three times before and whose last wife, who feared for her life, drowned in a bathtub. If your answer is “everything,” then you and I are seeing this debacle the same way.

As I listened to the news this morning a flock of questions took flight through my mind. What causes ordinarily responsible people to lose touch with reality? How could she think that this man was a good marriage prospect? Even if he was, shouldn’t she have checked him out more thoroughly? Didn’t she know about the bizarre death of his third wife?  Did her parents/family/friends/confidants warn her about marrying a man twice her age? What was she thinking? Was she thinking at all?

Now, four years later, this young mother has gone missing under suspicious circumstances and is probably decomposing in a shallow grave in some woods. How horrible is that?

I like Joe Muir’s words to young women quoted in Wendy Shalit’s blog Girls Gone Mild he writes:

I…want to encourage each of you to never, ever settle for second best in a relationship, as you deserve the best. It is far better to not be in a relationship, wishing you were in one, than to actually be in one, wishing you weren’t. Be willing, I pray you, to be single for the rest of your life, if that’s what it takes to not settle for second best; as that would be far better than marrying a man who cannot love you.




Filed under Culture Wars, Current Events, Female Issues, Love and Marriage, morality

13 responses to “The Disappearance of Stacy Peterson

  1. Sometimes when I hear the stories of seemingly intelligent girls going crazy for loser men, I wonder how much it has to do with the curse back in the garden: “…and your desire will be for your husband.” Sometimes I think that part of woman’s curse is to have such a strong desire for a husband that it becomes a curse for her; that she depends/hopes/trusts too much in a man.

    I don’t know. Just some thoughts I’ve had.

  2. Rachel

    Given the fact that the man was married three times before and that his last wife mysteriously died I would agree that that would be grounds to possibly not be with him. However, for some reason the age thing doesn’t really seem to bother me much. Why is it so alarming? At the end of the day isn’t it about compatibility? With this case a number of young men in their twenties are exceptionally immature. As a result, it is very possible that Stacy may have been a very mature individual who just found that most men her age were too immature for her. This may have led her into the arms of her 40 something year old husband.

  3. dwhitsett

    Rachel, Thanks for the comment. I agree about the age thing. Lots of good marriages have been made between people whose ages vary quite significantly. Compatibility is everything. But the age difference in combination with the other factors should have shouted a warning.

  4. Dwight,

    Just wanted to let you know that I am enjoying your site and I was wondering if I might link to it from my site.

  5. It seems also rather strange that Drew Peterson, with his spousal troubles, and most recently his former wife drowning in a bathtub, it tends to make me wonder how a man of this caliber was able to be recommended by senior law enforcement officials to be sworn in as a police officer. You can remember that several months ago, an Ohio police officer was found guilty of murder. Unfortunately, many law enforcement officers have become criminals themselves. We have become part of a sick nation, and getting sicker by the day. Live-in relationships, babies born out of wedlock, marriages of homosexual men, marriages between lesbians, public profanity, students carrying guns in school, early parole for felons, immigrants receiving U.S. federal benefits while taking jobs away from American born citizens. Instead of Americans saying God Bless the U.S.A., the present society is a God Less America

  6. Ask the brother – he helped move the body

  7. dontwanttogetinvolved???

    I think “dontwanttogetinvolved” may have some info that could be helpful in this case. I hope someone calls the police and lets them know about thAT POST. That person NEEDS to be found and questioned!!!

  8. JudyT

    If you lie down with pigs, you get muddy! She knew what he was and even took part in the harassment of his 3rd wife before she was murdered. What goes around comes around.

  9. Not Again!

    I cannot believe that we are here again. They named their baby Lacy! Oh, that is just sick. I knew Scott killed his wife the second I heard that he said, “This will be my first Christmas without her.” While she was very much still alive. What saddens me most about this, is that we are becoming callous about these cases. Oh, another one, as opposed to feeling for people. The Bible clearly states in Ecclesiastes 8:11
    “Because sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily, therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil.”
    We have people on death row for 10 years, with damning exacting evidence against them

  10. mother

    perhaps its society’s ignorance in regards to the dynamics of domestic violence this is the problem and not the woman. we also live in a society that lets teenage girls be manipulated by grown men without any authority givin to parents to stop it . i do wonder what really happened to stacey’s mother , didnt she just poof dissapear one day? maybe she didnt.

  11. I do believe we have a serious moral issue in the usa, not only in marriages but in relationships but most prevalant among those we look to for protection and order in a society that is on the verge of mahem. I hope we can now look at domestic violence in a more serious light and perhaps those is positions of authority. It is a shame that not only was this man to be her protector but he was representing the police and this has certainly left a scar on how many of us view those in authority now also.
    Stacey and her family and children are in our prayers.

  12. @”Mr. Alan Avellar”

    I am sure that you would accept a Chrisitian, non-US born, legal Immigrant taking a job over a US born homosexual?

    Your comments reflect those of a typical arrogant bible thumper. This isn’t the 1950’s.

    Evolution>the book of stories.

  13. Nancy

    I was married at 24 to a man of 40, the
    marriage lasted close to 20 years. I don’t
    think age has anything to do with it, but
    I believe the moral fabric of a person does. Stacy knew full well that Drew Peterson was married..that made him off bounds. Period. Drew Peterson not only left his third wife for Stacy..but his
    second wife for his third wife! What about
    that didn’t Stacy understand? Did she actually believe that he would “change” for her? Why? What made her different
    from his other “conquests?”

    Don’t get me isn’t for me to judge anyone..just stating the obvious..
    that’s all. Drew Peterson stalked Stacy
    for Gods sake! Does anyone really believe
    that he has just “let her go” so easily?
    Not. I fear Stacy told Drew Peterson the
    sociopath that she wanted a divorce..never
    imagining that he would actually kill her!
    Like that saying..”If I can’t have you, then NOONE will!”

    Stacy didn’t have a chance..once she told
    him that she wanted a divorce~she was as
    good as dead:( No matter what anyone might
    think her guilty of..she DIDN’T deserve to
    die. Drew Peterson had no right to take her life!

    I’m sorry Stacy..and I pray to God that
    justice prevails here. God Bless You and

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